Do you remember passing the Kleenex box when Renee Zellweger said her famous words to Tom Cruise in Jerry McQuire? “YOU COMPLETE ME”. Although quite romantic in the movie, did we ever think about the real meaning of those words? Relying on someone else to complete……US? What if we couldn’t change or fix someone to be our fairy tale perfect match? Would we eternally feel incomplete?
Not too long ago, I fit into this category – I was a people pleaser and always looking for that smile, acknowledgment, acceptance of others to complete me and make me feel happy. If they weren’t happy, I set out on a mission to make them happy so I could be too.
This grand gesture did nothing but cause stress, the other party didn’t want fixing and I didn’t have time to make the repair. By focusing on the other half of what seemingly completed me, I didn’t have to focus on my shortcomings.
Over time by cleaning up my foods and taking full responsibility for my health, this process spilled over into other parts of my life. I learned how to be responsible with my thoughts and eventually welcomed change to my shortcomings. I no longer saw these qualities as something “bad” about myself, I realized that I didn’t have to be right about everything and I also learned how to speak with respect not only about myself but also TOO myself.
I became extremely kind and forgiving to myself. I found great humor in my behavior while making lifestyle changes, I no longer thought of my attempts as failures, because I knew how to stand back up on my own. Thank you GT for teaching me how to do this!
I am everlastingly grateful for Sheri Lynn graciously sharing these life lessons with all of us. She has designed a one of a kind, intellectually mind boggling, witty program that coaches us along a path of self-responsibility. Eating clean, drinking water, resting, exercising and elegant thinking! Like I said, mind boggling!
Sheri has taught me how to be responsible for nourishing my body and mind no matter what is going on around me and to THRIVE at being me!
My energy is no longer spent on people pleasing or fixing other’s problems. This allows both myself and others a freedom to be ourselves and accept ourselves rather than look for external acceptance. I keep my journey moving forward, without stress or blame that someone else or situation held me back from my goals.
I am FILLED with gratitude for GT teaching me what elegant thinking means. An event that may have seemed “bad”,”difficult”,”unfair” or something that “SHOULDN’T have happened” is now viewed as a learning experience, a change that is about to produce growth, self awareness, excitement to strengthen a skill that will benefit me in life.
By trusting and loving who I was created to be, I can roll with life, however it comes at me. By focusing on my own process and not getting wrapped up in other’s business, I feel life became simple and slowed down, nothing passes by nor do I wish for the next moment to happen, I appreciate each moment in time.
November is a month to give thanks, while you give thanks to God and all of those around you, don’t forget to thank yourself for stepping up to the plate and getting to know your real strengths, the real you. Thank yourself for being kind and loving to yourself and thank yourself for falling down so you always know how to stand back up on your own two feet. I have thanked myself hundreds of times for that one 🙂
Happy Thanksgiving to you all!!
Katie Surjan
Certified Genesis Transformation Coach
Katie@genesistransformation.com
630-742-8518
Jenny Carr
November 6, 2012
Katie, thanks for sharing. As always, your writing is so inspiring and uplifting. I am grateful to have you in my life! 🙂
Katie Surjan
November 6, 2012
Thank you Jenny and I am so grateful to you have you in mine as well 🙂 Have a wonderful Thanksgiving my friend!
missfitness1980
November 6, 2012
OH MY! I felt as if what you wrote was something that coming out of my mouth! I myself was a self proclaimed ‘crowd pleaser’, for the fact, that I went OUT OF MY WAY to make people feel good, be happy, and to please their needs. When in fact I had forgotten to please the most important person in my life….ME! Since I’ve been on this process, it’s sooo clear to me now that I do things for ME, and if someone is being a negative nancy, I just remove them without a thought of ‘helping’ them. Not saying I wouldn’t want to cheer someone up like a good friend, but, those other I’ll call them “3rd party” friends. I have been very aware now of the people that burn through my good energy and I have learned not to let them steal my energy (CLARITY!!). This what seems to be a little thing, has profoundly changed my life, b/c, it all boils down to the negative energy around you. Cleansing yourself of it is soooo uplifting, heck with uplifting other people. What everyone needs to know is, not everyone can be ‘helped’, they must help theirselves. I WAS that person that needed to help myself to really be able to appreciate it all.
When you are positive, positive things/ideas/events follow you. When you are negative, negative follows you! so! brush off that negative off your shoulders!
Great Article Katie!!! YOU ROCK!!!