Sheri’s Rants #50: Sex, Road Trips, and Stress

Posted on May 29, 2011 by


Here’s advice given to me as a young woman:

 Never have sex with someone you wouldn’t go on a cross country road trip with.

This made astounding sense to me at the time – often flummoxed as I was about the (predictable) consequences of becoming intimate too early in a relationship.  Once I gave this consideration – can I put myself in a car with this person for 14 days? – I’d override my hormones and come to my senses fairly quickly.

Later, much later, having raised children and navigated the deeper waters of Life, I still ponder this question in my associations –  relationships with clients, with projects, with where I spend my time.  I’ve reduced the question to read does it look like fun? for the sake of brevity – but really, I stop and consider:  Will I be interested, educated, entertained, fascinated?  Will there be laughing?  High drama? Whining?

Enveloped in high stress lifestyles requiring more attention than we have to give, the skill of stopping to consider what we’re getting ourselves into can be – and I’m not exaggerating – a lifesaver.  It’s simply not realistic to expect that we will be taking the number of vacations we really need to fully regenerate…so giving full consideration to what (and who!) we DO get involved with is critical.


If we would only give, just once, the same amount of reflection to what we want to get out of life that we give to the question of what to do with a two weeks’ vacation, we would be startled at our false standards and the aimless procession of our busy days. ~Dorothy Canfield Fisher

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