Embracing Imperfection

Posted on March 3, 2014 by


Samantha“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” -Anna Quindlen

In our culture we believe perfectionism to be an ultimate goal. However, being perfect isnot self improvement. Self improvement means making mistakes and having the conviction to change our behaviors because they don’t align with who we want to be. I’ve found believing in perfectionism is actually a path to addiction, anxiety, depression,and life paralysis. Perfectionism is not the same thing as healthy striving to be your best self. In fact, research shows perfectionism hampers success. There is no such thing as being perfect so striving for it is self destructive.

Perfectionism self talk: “Ugh. I’m a cow. My jeans look awful on me. I need to be skinny to be happy.”

Healthy striving self talk: “I want to be healthier and leaner. I’m doing this for me. The scale does not dictate if I’m loved or beautiful.”

GT JourneyYou’re going to make mistakes on your GT journey to becoming a healthier you. Sheri is known for drawing a diagram with a line from A (beginning) to B (goal) with a bunch of messy squiggles along the way depicting one’s GT path. Every GT’er looks different. Most important is to embrace your imperfection. Don’t let a distorted belief in perfectionism cause you to give up and quit. We are all imperfect. We are human and we’re going to make a lot of mistakes. Pick yourself up and do it differently next time. Healthy striving is self focused. How can I improve? Perfectionism is other focused. What will they think?

I encourage you to talk nice and be kind to yourself. Your imperfect self deserves it!

“A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.” -Christopher Germer

By: Samantha Ray – Genesis Coach